kenberg, on 2013-January-28, 07:39, said:
In my teenage years the culture very strongly supported the idea that a boy must physically confront and physically prevail or physically give way. I was neither the biggest nor the smallest, the strongest nor the weakest, but this was a lot of pressure. This is simply not the way it is in modern adult life. I cannot recall the last time that my physical strength, or lack of it, played any roll at all in any conflict I had.Maybe fifty years ago. And I have never carried a weapon. Not a gun, not a knife. In my high school metal shop class we had to do a project. Several of the boys made knives. I have no idea why this was allowed.
It's a fantasy to think that gun laws, with nothing else done, will solve the problem of violence. True enough, I give the gun rights advocates that. But I am convinced it will help. It will help by reducing the availability of guns, the pervasive existence of guns in some neighborhoods, and, perhaps, it will also help by finally starting us to move away as a society from this self-destructive idea that conflicts are best resolved through physical intimidation. Helping young males move away from this would be a really good idea, for those around them and for themselves as well. I suspect we can all agree on that. Maybe not. Well, if someone disagrees, we can have a duel over it.
This just came to mind. Almost fifty years ago I read "A Choice of Weapons" by Gordon Parks. A long time back, but I remember liking it a lot. People make choices, and some choices are better than others.
Never read that autobiography. Maybe I should.
My teenage years postdated yours by a decade, but I don't imagine things were much different. I do remember being shocked, a couple years after I graduated from high school (1965) to hear that one of my sister's classmates had cold-cocked the vice principal. We didn't have violence like that when I was in school!
I had a friend, a year older than I, who grew up in rural New York. He said that he and his friends used to go hunting after school - and they would bring their guns to school and stack them in the coat closet. Nobody was concerned about that back then, and nobody shot up the school. Times have indeed changed. I imagine it's the same with making knives in shop class.
I note that there's a group here that teaches the dying art of blacksmithing. They also have a class in knife making. It's an interesting (to me, anyway) subject. I might take the course some time.
Two things: I am learning that in Chinese martial arts, the ultimate goal is to not fight. In fact, one of the translations of one of the Chinese words for "martial arts" is "fight-no fight". The other thing is from Vegetius: "Si vis pacem, para bellum" — if you want peace, prepare for war. Personally, I think that being prepared - knowing how, and having the means - to fight is a good thing, even though you hope never to have to use it. There's also an element of "a man's gotta know his limitations" to it - the more you learn, the more you learn how much you don't know, and also how horribly wrong a fight can go.