barmar, on 2012-September-06, 08:59, said:
In addition, most of these "rules" are pretty arbitrary. The rule about not splitting infinitives is one of the most notorious. It supposedly comes from the Latin origin of English, in which infinitives were single words, and hence unsplittable. Some grammar nazis decided that even though English doesn't share this form of the infinitive, the sentence structure it implies should still be enforced. Never mind that practically everyone finds "to boldly go" more mellifluous than "to go boldly" or "boldly to go". That's because it's consistent with another rule: adjectives and adverbs normally immediately precede the word they're modifying, so putting it after or inserting "to" between them makes it more awkward sounding.
I'm about 2/3 through a very good book: "Thinking Fast and Slow". It's mostly about how we make decisions, but the psychological and neurological underpinnings also explain why on-the-fly utterances are not likely to obey strict rules and why it generally doesn't cause communication problems.
I think I agree with this. I am (almost) always in favor of lightening up and my own errors, grammatical and otherwise, would fill a large book. In my original post I took "if you ask Ann and I" from a presumably prepared and presumably proofread speech on a presumably important occasion. The construction violated rules that I learned early in childhood. I found this stunning. The responses have been vary interesting, and I now make the (partial) concession that at least some people in high places can and do make some sort of argument that the construction is correct. That's as far as I go with the concession, "ask Ann and I" still sounds barbaric to me. I was perfectly serious in asking for the general principle that governs this choice of "I". For example, should I ask Ann and he over for dinner? The cited Wikipedia article seemed to be saying "high class people do it, so it's ok". Maybe I will try this defense the next time I get a speeding ticket.